Living this beautiful and hard human existence from a wholehearted place opens the door to some of life’s sweetest and most fortifying gifts but it also opens us up to pain, vulnerability, fear, and failure on a regular basis. So, why do it, especially when our brain’s modus operandi is to seek out pleasure and comfort and avoid pain?
The vulnerability and growth factor for my husband and me has been at an all-time high with our most recent move to Colorado. As many of you know, we became franchise owners of Shred415 in southern Denver. Although the venture uprooted us from our sweet existence in the Midwest, it presented a unique opportunity to pursue our passion of physical and emotional wellness, and to do so with a business concept that aligned well with our own goals. Shred’s mission resonated with us at our core so when opportunity knocked, we answered.
Letting go of what we have to pursue what is possible and to make our family and our world better is what drives our engine. We are open to trying new things, to realizing our potential with the knowledge that nothing is a sure thing. Regardless of the outcome, we know that huge growth and wisdom are the byproducts of daring greatly — not to mention the blessings of meeting so many beautiful human beings along the way.
A young man with whom I work just went through a series of interviews for a top position in his organization. He was one of a handful of individuals being considered, and he knew going into it that the likelihood of securing the top spot was slim as there was someone that was the presumed winner. After some reflection, he was still willing to go for it. He went through the interview process and learned soon after that he did not get the position. Although disappointed, he handled it with his head high and genuine gratitude for the experience. Deep down, he felt that he had given his best and he believed that the person who got it was deserving. All good. Unbeknownst to him though, by interviewing for this top spot and because of the way that the system was set up, he jeopardized his ability to be considered for the other top roles. Ultimately, he was dropped down to a position that was not commensurate with his gifts or experience, and this along with the lack of transparency in the process felt like an even bigger blow. He had performed well and hard in the roles he had carried in the years leading up to this and to have his dedication and hard work seemingly dismissed and unrecognized was hard to ingest. He had no leg to stand on other than what he made it all mean, and how best to respond and move forward with the situation. Did not securing one of these top roles discount or determine who he was? Nope. I had the pleasure of witnessing how this marvelous young man maneuvered the difficult situation, and how he allowed for some time to lick his wounds, express his frustration and disappointment, take accountability for his choices, and then pick himself back up, pull himself together, and hit the ground running. As a life coach, I see this as wholeheartedness personified. He made the choice of reaching for something that was meaningful and not a sure thing, and he was willing to put his skin in the game. Although the outcome was not what he had hoped — and his organization lost the opportunity to have someone of his character lead their people — his greatest lesson was that he gets to be and become whomever he chooses regardless of the positions he secures. By choosing to live wholeheartedly and in the ring, he is going to experience some losses, failures, and disappointment along the way, but he is also going to grow, evolve, and shine ever more brightly in this world. Fear of failure is not going to stop him, especially when he wants and believes in something. This is everything! Can’t wait to see where he goes on this life’s grand adventure.
Fear of the unknown often keep us from living an open-hearted life. Instead of avoiding this, why not make the paradigm shift to seeking it? Being open to it? It is where so much of our personal growth and dreams reside. It’s living in the arena, sharing our hearts, helping others share theirs, realizing what is possible, and embracing this human journey. No strings attached.
Living wholeheartedly is not for the faint of heart but I would argue that it is the gateway to living your very best life. The world needs you and your gifts. In order to shine, you need to be willing to be seen and known. Step into the light. Put on your courage vest. Expect to feel discomfort and fear, and expect it to be hard — and when you do, know that you are doing it right. What are you waiting for? Get out there. Shine, my loves! xx