Creating Healthy Patterns

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days. It is a scaffolding on which a worker can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. A schedule is a mock-up of reason and order—willed, faked, and so brought into being; it is a peace and a haven set into the wreck of time; it is a lifeboat on which you find yourself, decades later, still living. Each day is the same, so you remember the series afterward as a blurred and powerful pattern."  ~ Annie Dillard

You are what you repeatedly do, so being intentional about the substance of your daily habits and patterns is essential in creating your reality.  Your day to day choices become your life.  Plain and simple.

As you get older, it gets harder to create new habits because it requires energy and awareness to shift gears and try new things.  Operating on autopilot is a lot more comfortable and efficient for your brain so unless you explicitly teach it to do something else, it prefers the well-traveled path.  Probably the hardest part of developing new habits is the initial energy involved, and having to work hard at getting good at something again.  My kids would tell you that you have to suck first before you get better. The good news is that you don't have to be better than where you actually are at that very moment in the process.  There's no need to keep score.  And most importantly, there is no place for judgment (even if it has been hard-wired into your being from an early age!) since that holds you back from trying new things and unleashing that untapped potential within.

A great example of being okay with wherever I am is building my business as a life coach.  Each step along the way asks me to be okay with wherever I am in the process and not judge whether or not it should be something else.  Like being somewhere else on the journey.  As a person who likes to be good at things, it has been a hard but valuable lesson in appreciating the very process of the unfolding. I have learned that writing this blog post (and all of those preceding this one!) without judging it, and posting it is part of honing that tool of process and not being wed to the outcome has been an important step in that direction.  An unexpected bonus from the actual practice of writing a blog has been finding my voice and establishing a pattern.  It has helped me to get more clear on what I am teaching, what my work entails and from where I come in coaching my clients. 

Tom Stern who wrote The Practicing Mind says that "the goal is not the destination, but rather the compass that guides the journey." I love this.  Keep heading in the direction of your goals, enjoy the process, and stay on course.  Inevitably, adjustments will need to be made along the way (that's the beauty of the adventure!), so recalibrate when and where needed, and recognize the gold in the process.  You got this.  #babysteps. #itsallgood.