Life Is Hard

Life is hard.

Welcome to being human.

As Brene Brown espouses, every day offers us a fresh opportunity to choose courage over comfort, and to step into our lives wholeheartedly and to take off the armor.

It is a choice.

What do you choose in the hard?

A grounding and centering question when you are unsure of what to do in a particular situation: What would love do in this moment? What is my next best step?

Have the difficult conversation? Go for a walk? Get out of bed? Talk to your professor? Make an appointment with your therapist? Choose a kinder inner dialogue? Drink some water? Breathe? Pause? Hit the ground running?

Focus on the here and now. Break it into small, bite-sized pieces that you can metabolize.

Choose well. Choose courage. Choose the next best step.

You’re worth it.

Tomorrow is a new day.

Let’s go, dear ones. Do the hard. Pause. Feel everything. Have your own back. Choose courage over comfort. Wholehearted over armored. I’ve got you covered. x

What I Teach

“A teacher is a student who teaches to continue her study.”

I love helping people discover their gifts and follow their curiosities while creating a life philosophy and way of being that helps them flourish, be well, feel good, and contribute to the world.

I believe that life is a journey of hard and sweet and so much of our experience is informed by how we think, how we feel, and how we choose to show up in the world.

I am committed to the path of emotional and physical health and wellness, and lighting the way towards what is possible and what is desired.

I love depth, breadth, messy, beautiful, meaningful, authentic, vulnerable, courageous, intentional, strong, and real. In short, this is what it means to be human.

I believe that most of us never feel good enough, we hide more than we show up, we desire connection but avoid being vulnerable, and we steer clear of discomfort even though it is the currency of a life well-lived.

I am committed to helping you find your way back to yourself, learn how to feel any and all things, think and move in a way that serves you and lights you up, and guide you back to being courageous and whole hearted again.

Join me for a monthly coaching package where you and I can be an unbeatable team: I can help you find your footing, teach you skills to navigate life consciously and confidently, and gently help you rise to that next level of growth so that you have a direction and can keep on realizing your potential. xx #cheerstoyou #cheerstothejourneyofbeinghuman

You're Worth It

“I’m taking the winter sports season off,” said my high school senior, Ellie, who has had an overflowing plate and tightly structured schedule of academics, extracurriculars, and overall LIFE these last 4 years. This kind of scheduled intensity is not atypical for many of the high school and college students with whom I work.

Most days, Ellie is on from the moment she wakes up before 7am, until she rests her weary head and body in her bed at night, often past midnight. Her to-do list never ends. It just spirals onward, with no end in sight.

“Wow. The winter season? No team involvement? Nothing? A blank slate?” I asked. She nodded.

Then I asked, “That’s a big deal, Elles. It sounds wonderful. What are you going to do with that unstructured time?”

She smiled and said, “I am going to do my own thing…do my own workouts. I’m not sure what it looks like yet but I am ready to give it a try.”

Three months. Ninety days. Many, many hours. All of that open space to breathe, to move with her own agenda, and decide what is on tap for that particular day’s workout, for that particular two hours a day. Such a treat.

I asked Ellie, “Was it difficult to make this decision to step off the known path, clear your schedule, and make time for you?”

She told me, “In many ways, yes. It took some courage. I had to pull the trigger and back away from swimming which I will miss — especially the people.” She paused. “But I knew… if I wanted these few months for myself, then I needed to claim it. I don’t see having this opportunity again for quite some time. Nobody is ever going to give this time to me. I had to give it to myself.”

I’ve been thinking about that conversation with Ellie for the last several weeks. Her words keep replaying inside my head: I had to give it to myself.

When there is a window of time where structure and activities are not dictating where and what we need to be doing in every moment, there is this unfamiliar open space. Who are we outside of all of our roles? Our agendas? What do we need to give back to ourselves? What is our heart longing for? What do we want? Who are we in the midst of this world in which we walk and inhabit?

If I were to think and dream along the lines of what I would do with some free, unplanned time each day: My heart longs for thirty minutes every morning to drink coffee in my pajamas, be with my thoughts, and soak in the peace and quiet (or hang with my hubby if he is in town and up for a cup of joe! ) — thirty minutes of solitude before I wake the kids up and begin the day’s agenda/work. I would love time to focus and immerse myself in developing a 4-6 week program for my clients for 2019. Maybe one month to learn how to pull together a podcast. I would relish reading a few books and writing a steady stream of blog posts. When friends call or family comes to visit, I want the ability to say “Absolutely!” instead of “I’m not sure I am able to pull it off.” And like Ellie, I want time to be still and do whatever my heart desires in that day and moment, without an agenda dictating my next move.

Who’s going to give me that blessing of time?

Nobody except me.

And who’s going to grant you the time that you are starved for — time to journal, time to breathe, time to go for a walk, time to learn how to cook, time to read a novel, time to hang with a dear friend, time to be in conversation with yourself and ask questions, time to ask yourself who am I?, time to sit quietly and contemplate what it all means?

Nobody except you.

The time that you long for. The time that your whole being is aching to take back. The gift that’s priceless, more than honoring the checklist, and recognition and praise, more than anything.

Give it to yourself. You’re worth it.